Category Archives: Marriage

CG-STAT, Love, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

My Wedding Date is Set

A4P Guest: I’m 30 years old. I’m originally from Ethiopia. I moved to the U.S. 15 years ago. I became a born again Christ when I was 13. I’m now dating an African American man, 38 years old. He is a born again Christian too. I am going to his church since I met him. We’ve been together since May of 2013. Since day one, we have been doing everything we are not supposed to do as an unmarried couple and all my best friends who are from Ethiopia seem to know but none of them have said anything about it. We are now about to get married and his pastor didn’t ask us about our sexual integrity or anything related to that when we went to him to set our wedding day. But me, I go to bed crying knowing that I’m sinning against my God and that for sure my sin will soon find me out. My wedding date is set for March. What do you advise me to do?
 
A4P: If I were you, knowing what I know today about sexual sin and the consequences of it all, I would call everything off, including the wedding date until I get my life straight before God.

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Family, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

To One Another

When we are found sinning against God and our spouses, it is good for us to deal with our sin according to the Bible.

The Bible says, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)

But in many cases, confessing our sins to our spouses won’t be good enough. We need to invite others into our mess so that they can help us rebuild our marriages.  ///

Family, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

Back to the Message

Before I write anything, I would like to leave a quick “Thank you” note to all who dropped off your nice comments on my latest post. I read each one of your comments. Thank you! I’m sure you all had a fantastic Thanksgiving Day. My family and I did, and I thank God for it.

Well, I’m back to my message of appealing for sexual purity.

These days I’m receiving many inquiries regarding the morality of an online opposite gender relationship for married people.

If you are married and one or all of the following statements describe your online relationship with the opposite sex, you may need to end your relationship because it may lead you into an extramarital relationship: Continue reading Back to the Message →

Marriage, Truth

A Very Risky Business

A wife has to be wise when she rejects her husband’s sexual advances.

Healthy and good communication is key here! If a couple has good communication, a wife can wisely tell her husband her reasons why she doesn’t want sex for that specific day.

However, if a husband is mentally, emotionally and physically abusing his wife, he shouldn’t expect any positive response from her because sex is something a wife can’t welcome in the presence of abuse. The abuse has to first stop because where there is any form of abuse, not only the sex but the marriage itself can’t thrive. If there is any form of abuse in the marriage or unresolved conflicts, the couple has to seek counseling from their own local church marriage counselors, ministers and pastors.

If there is no abuse in the marriage, rejecting husband’s sexual advances can be a very risky business that can be the cause for the disintegration of a beautiful marriage. That is why the Bible says:

“Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5)

Here, “Do not deprive each other” is not a suggestion but a command and disobeying this command can rob us of our joy and fulfillment in our lives and marriages. ///

P.S. Make Note: This same biblical principle applies to where a husband rejects his wife’s sexual advances; however that is not a commonly seen problem.

Love, Marriage, Truth

Woman’s Sexual Nature is different from man’s

The one problem in marriage is a husband thinking that his wife is created like him; and a wife thinking that her husband is created like her. But according to the Bible, God created them male and female; means they are two different creatures especially in the department of sex.

This is a clip from “For Married Couples’ only” conference/seminar in Calgary, Canada. ///

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I’m back to Maryland

Praise God! I came back from Calgary, Canada yesterday morning and guess what? Calgary got covered with snow the day I left. It must be God who kept me from seeing it, seriously! God knows how I passionately don’t like and appreciate seeing snow. I praise His name! And I always thank Him for not putting snow in heaven. No snow in heaven, do you know that? Oh, no, there is none! Thank You, LORD!
 
I’m happy to be back to Maryland and before I tell you all about my stay in Calgary, Canada, I would like to write a thank you note to people who made my stay in Calgary a success.
 
I first would like to say thank you to all the four local churches’ pastors who came as one to put the program together: Pastor Workneh Mogesse from Philadelphia Church; Pastor Meron W/Hawariat (with Pastor Nahod) from Global Faith Ministries; Pastor Chalachew Eshetu, from Ethiopian Evangelical Church and Pastor Tewodros Damtew from Agape International Church.

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Four Symptoms of an Unhealthy Marriage

The health of a marriage depends on how a couple deals with their marital conflicts. In reality, every married couple deals with conflicts here and there and the presence of a conflict doesn’t indicate that the marriage is an unhealthy one. Rather the presence of the following four ways of dealing with conflicts may show that the marriage is an unhealthy one:

Exchanging disrespectful words; (name calling); Continue reading Four Symptoms of an Unhealthy Marriage →

Marriage, Truth

Worth Living With Him?

A4P Guest: I have one short quick question; I have no love for my husband. Is it worth living with him without me having any feeling for him?

A4P: My friend, the Bible never says, “If you love your husband, live with him; but if you don’t feel any love towards him, it is not worth living with him; divorce him.” Continue reading →

Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

Phone-Sex?

A4P Guest: I have a question. Is phone -sex recommended for Christian husband and wife?

A4P: What is “phone-sex?” The phrase itself is counterintuitive and I will tell you why.

Sex is the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional union and oneness of a husband and a wife. This union includes the presence of God who is the only source of sexual pleasure (assuming that both of them are the temples of the Holy Spirit). In view of these two points (and more), the word “phone-sex” is counterintuitive. Continue reading Phone-Sex? →