Category Archives: Marriage

Fasting from Sex

A4P Guest: “My husband and I are born against Christians. We are members of one local church in our area. We try our best to get involved in every activity our church may have. For this Easter season, our church has a 21 days fasting program that we, my husband and I, are taking part in. So this past Sunday, after the church service, a topic came up about what to fast and what not to fast from. And some of our church folks said that our fasting should include fasting from sex for our fasting to be biblically right. I asked them to prove it for me from the Bible but nobody knew exactly what verse to tell me but they kept on claiming that it is biblical to fast from sex when we fast from food. I and my husband don’t think we need to fast from sex. What is your take on this issue? I don’t think sex has anything to do with fasting.”

A4P: Thank you for your timely question and thank you for giving me permission to address your question on the page.

Most churches use this Easter season for fasting. I think that is excellent! Fasting is one of the Christian disciplines that is becoming rare and considered as outdated. But fasting has the most spiritual significance in a Christian life as praying and studying the Word of God have. And I appreciate you and your husband for taking part in your church’s fasting program. Continue reading Fasting from Sex

New York from April 10 to 12!

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God opened yet another door for me and the Appeal for Purity Ministry to go and minister! Where? At the Emmanuel Worship Center in Bronx, New York from April 10 to 12.

I can’t tell you how excited I’m! Praise be to His Holy Name!

Within these three days, from April 10 to 12, I’m going to minister to teens, singles, married couples and to the whole Sunday morning congregation. Don’t miss it!

So, if you are in New York, mark your calendar to be there and worship God with us! If you are not going to be in the New York area but know people who are, invite them over on our behalf.

Blessings! ///


First let me say this:

“Thank you” to all of you the Appeal for Purity Ministry Facebook page fans who liked our wedding pictures and wished us a happy anniversary! My Berhan and I were very humbled by it all! We really appreciate you all a lot! May Jesus Christ take all the glory, praise and honor because He is the Author of our life and marriage!

Today is Sunday and you know what I’m about to say, don’t you?

Let’s all go to church!

Local church is where we find Christ working relentlessly to bring light to the dark world by destroying the work of the devil.

Jesus said, “- – – on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.” (Matthew 16:18)

Whether a local church is strong or weak, Christ is the Head of her and nothing can overcome her. Be part of a Bible believing and teaching local church. Then lock your hands with other believers so that you be a channel for the Holy Spirit to reach out to the lost. ///

Today is our 18th Years Wedding Anniversary!

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The Bible says, Jesus came to seek and save the lost! (Luke 19:10) And my Berhan and I were one of those lost people Jesus came for! And we praise Him forever for seeking and saving us!

Jesus is also a reason for our marriage to stand still until this day. Yes, just as it is with everybody else’s marriage, the rain came down, the streams rose and the wind blew and beat against our marriage many times but because of the Foundation, the Rock, we built our marriage on, our marriage stood still! (Matthew 7:24-25) What the enemy meant it for evil God turned it all for good! (Genesis 50:20) Through it all, our love got stronger and deeper than ever! Continue reading Today is our 18th Years Wedding Anniversary!

“Sex is Good in the Evening!”

We know that men and women are different. I mean, however much we think we are modernized, educated and sophisticated, there is one truth we can’t deny, i.e. men and women are different. I’m not talking about the husband being a night owl and the wife being an early bird. I mean those differences can drive a couple crazy too but I’m talking about sexual wiring differences.

Those kinds of differences sometimes make you secretly ask this question: “Is this person really created on this planet or does this person come from a different planet?” (I mean, men are more guilty of asking this question than women, that is for sure) Continue reading “Sex is Good in the Evening!”

“Jesus didn’t come to rescue us from our humanity”

Whenever I find a good book to read, I forget the whole world, I mean I literally forget the rest of the world, including myself.

And Joshua Harris who is one of my favorite authors successfully makes his readers get lost in the Truth of God. As you flip the pages, you get socked, drowned and lost in awe of God and His Truth! For me personally, reading Pastor Harris’ book is like having a wonderful devotional time with my LORD and God. Breathtaking!

If you didn’t read his books such as “sex is not the problem (lust is)” or “not even a hint” or “Boy meets Girl” or “I kissed Dating Goodbye”, well, you are missing out. You may not know this but Pastor Harris’s books are one of those “must-read” books many marriage counselors recommend to singles! So, if you are single, get these books and you will know what I am talking about. Continue reading “Jesus didn’t come to rescue us from our humanity”

A Good Reason to Go to Church Today!

A4P Guest: I’ve been following your Facebook page and YouTube channel for a while now. I’ve heard most of your messages. You are mostly talking about how dangerous it is for us believers to live in sexual immorality. I got it! I heard you! I understood the truth about that. But okay, we are in it now. I and many of my Christian friends are living in sexual immorality. What is the solution? How did we end up in here? How do Christian people choose this life? How can we get out of this? Why do you always talk about the problem, not the solution?

A4P: Hmm, maybe I lost my mind or something; or am I missing something here? Continue reading A Good Reason to Go to Church Today!

A Role of a Father from a Family – – – A Generation

When our daughter was a little girl, like three or four years old, the most exciting day for her used to be the day I made her hair differently. She looks at herself in the mirror, admiring her beauty she asks: “Do you think my dad will recognize me?” I always respond, “I doubt it.”

She waits for him as if nobody’s business. Every now and then, she looks out of the window to see if her dad is back from work. So, I usually call my husband and give him heads up. So, he comes home and says, “Where is my daughter? And, who is this cute girl here?” Continue reading A Role of a Father from a Family – – – A Generation

“I find it hard to trust my husband”

A4P Guest: I am married to my husband for three years now. We have a one-year old son. We both are born-again Christians. I love my husband very much, maybe more than life itself. I know he loves me. After we got married, he cheated on me with one of his ex-s and I forgave him because I think the girl set him up for it and it was hard for him to go out of the temptation. Now he spends most of his evening hours after he comes from work on Facebook chatting with one of his ex-s. I told him that I didn’t appreciate his relationship with any of his ex-s. Whenever I bring up this discussion, he always gets upset with me and says, “Why don’t you trust me? You always say you love me but why do you find it hard to trust me? I am just chatting with them as a friend.” I am praying but nothing seems to change. I know I have to forgive him for his past mistake because love doesn’t keep record of wrongs but for some reason I find it hard to trust him. What should I do? Continue reading “I find it hard to trust my husband”

“Am I Considered as a sexually Addicted Person?”

A4P Guest: “I’m a 29 year-old single woman. I have a problem of viewing porn and masturbation. I’m a born-again Christian and heavily involved in my church ministry. Am I considered a sexually addicted person or a person with a sexual sin problem?”

A4P: An excellent question!

Having sexual addiction problem and sexual sin problem are two different things but both are considered sinful before God. Sexual intimacy is considered holy before God ONLY when it occurs in a one-flesh relationship of one man and one woman who are married to each other. Continue reading “Am I Considered as a sexually Addicted Person?”