Category Archives: Marriage

But You – – –

For the past two days, including today, I studied 1 Timothy 6.
What a beautiful and fantastic chapter of the Bible to study.
Oh, how I love the word of God!
Oh, how I love your law!
    I meditate on it all day long.
Your commands are always with me
    and make me wiser than my enemies.
I have more insight than all my teachers,
    for I meditate on your statutes.
I have more understanding than the elders,
    for I obey your precepts.
I have kept my feet from every evil path
    so that I might obey your word.
I have not departed from your laws,
    for you yourself have taught me.
How sweet are your words to my taste,
    sweeter than honey to my mouth!
I gain understanding from your precepts;
    therefore I hate every wrong path.” Psalm 119:97-104 NIV

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My Wife Sleeps In A Different Bedroom

A4P Guest: I am a born-again Christian, so is my wife. My wife of five years now refused to sleep with me. She sleeps in another bedroom. She started sleeping in this other room like a month ago, now little by little, she moved all her stuff from our bedroom to that room. As a Christian, I am struggling what to do with this kind of situation. How can a marriage continue like this?

A4P: Did you ask your wife why she left her bedroom?

A4P Guest: I always ask her, “Why didn’t you sleep in your bedroom,” but the only answer I get is, “I am still in my house.”

A4P: Hmm! Well, something must have happened to her. So, what happened between you and her on the day she first left her bedroom?

A4P Guest: Nothing new! We went to bed and I wanted to be intimate with her and she immediately came out of the bed and said, “It is better for both of us if I sleep in another room. Then, we will both get enough sleep.”

A4P: Okay. Help me so I can help you here. No woman leaves her bedroom for no reason. So, tell me the things your wife often complains about.

A4P Guest: We have two little ones and I always tell her to put them to bed early so we can have our time together, to nurture our marriage.

A4P: “Nurture our marriage.” I am totally impressed here. My brother, if you are not willing to tell me everything, I can’t help you.

A4P Guest: I am trying to tell you everything. She complains that I don’t help her with the kids but the thing is I work hard the whole day. She is a stay-at-mom. I come home feeling very tired. After I come from work, she wants me to go out for a walk with her and the kids. She doesn’t understand how tired I get when I come home. Plus, she doesn’t like to see me relaxing, you know. After a long day, what I need is a few minutes to wind down, like watch TV or be on social media and she always complains about that. You always say in your teaching, don’t nag your husbands, but my wife doesn’t apply that good advice. She nags me a lot. She wants me to pray with her and attend Bible study on Zoom and I told her, I will take care of the kids while she does her spiritual thing. I believe in God and I keep my spirituality to myself. And she always asks me about how much I make and to put her name in my bank account. I told her that I would do that but she keeps nagging me about it. She always says, “What if something happens?” I told her not to worry about tomorrow as the Bible says but she doesn’t listen. Now she fights with my sister and my mom who live in another state. I told her to change her behavior. I am not sure what her spirituality is all about. She doesn’t even know how to get along with people. My mom and my sister are born-again Christians and they know how to live with others. They apply the teaching of the Bible into their own lives. So, I told her to change her behavior but she doesn’t listen to me. These days, I think she wants to be the head. How can a house be led by two leaders? There are many things between us, but I still believe that she shouldn’t leave her bedroom.

A4P: Please pass on my message to her: I am very surprised that you didn’t leave your house. I am sure you did it for the sake of your little ones. May God repay you for what you’re doing for your kids. And this is my advice for you: My friend, what you need now is not marriage counseling, but counseling for yourself to be a person God calls you to be. Then after that you may seek counseling to learn how to be a husband to your wife. Then after you do this, seek marriage counseling. Unless you do these things in this order, things will soon get worse. May God help you! ///


During the ancient Roman Empire, if you stop a man and ask his views about sex or about women, he would describe it this way:

“We keep prostitutes for pleasure; we keep mistresses for the day to day needs of the body; we keep wives for the faithful guardianship of our homes.”


Well, first, I am glad that I was not created at that time.

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A Reminder to Love

This is a season some people get married and others graduate from school. This season is also a season of death since people die at all seasons, including spring and summer.

This past week, some people we know finished their journey on this side of heaven and crossed over to the other side. And it is sometimes tough to try to comfort those who lost their loved ones. I mean, what do you say to them? “Don’t worry, you will join them soon?” Or, “It is okay, we all are going to die anyways?” I think sometimes it is better to just sit next to them quietly. Continue reading A Reminder to Love

Sexual Desire and Lust

Whenever I mention what Jesus said on Matthew 5:28, “- – – anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” many people ask me, “How can I then decide who to marry without sexually lusting after them?”
This question totally breaks my heart because it tells me that those people who ask this question see lust as a holy and pure sexual desire every one of us naturally have.

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