Let Them Marry Him

A4P Guest: Missy, please don’t be hard on me but let me ask you a quick question.

A4P: Sure, go ahead and ask and I try my best not to be hard on you as long as you’re not here to ask me one of those, “A guy I’m dating doesn’t care for my emotion. He lusts after every girl who passes him by but I know that he is mine because God spoke to me through different prophets and I love him very much. Do you think God will change him if I pray hard,” kind of questions.

A4P Guest: No but is there any problem with that particular question?

A4P: Do you want me to go over the problems that question has or do you want me to try to answer the question you plan think of asking me?

A4P Guest: I want you to answer my question.

A4P: Good! So ask me.

A4P Guest: So, do you think it is good for me to marry a guy I am not attracted to?

A4P: Give me some background information about you and maybe about the guy you’re talking about too.

A4P Guest: I am 26 years old and my mom and everybody I know want me to get married. I am a born again Christian and so are my families. The men who came into my life so far are not believers and I don’t want to marry an unbeliever. Now a friend of my other friend introduced me to this guy who asked me for a date. Since he recently started coming to our church, my mom and aunts met him. And now everybody is on my case, saying I need to marry him. The thing is I am not attracted to him at all.

A4P: Then say “No” to his request without making a public announcement. I mean, you’re 26, a big, independent woman who leads your own life. Right?

A4P Guest: Yah but at the same time, I don’t want to lose my opportunity. I want to marry before I hit 30.

A4P: Fair enough! So tell me a little bit about him.

A4P Guest: He is a good looking man, educated and well spoken person. He is of course a born again Christian.

A4P: How old is he?

A4P Guest: He is 46.

A4P: Let the people who are bugging you to marry him marry him. Let them marry him. You find another man in your own generation that you get attracted to. Let this man pass you. I too am not attracted to him on your behalf.

Do you have any other question for me?

A4P Guest: No. ///