It is very natural for a woman to be a mother to her wedded husband. Her natural instinct itself predisposes her to act like a mother to her husband.
The Bible says, “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”” Genesis 2:18
It DOES NOT say,
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a MOTHER suitable for him.””
This may sound very straightforward for someone who is not already in a marriage or already in a marriage but being mentored by older people and doing marriage well.
But for so many young married wives, this actually may sound gibberish because all they’ve known all along in their married life is to act and be like a mother to their husbands.
You hear them say things like,
“I buy my husband’s clothes! He doesn’t go anywhere unless I go with him. Unless I give him dinner, he doesn’t eat. He doesn’t even know how to fry eggs. I actually feel like a failure if I see my husband cook in the kitchen.”
They think that they are telling you a very romantic love story. They didn’t know that they are painting the most distorted marriage for you.
And most of the time, these wives are mothers to their little ones and they are mothers to “a fully grown man,” their husband.
That means they work hard the whole day like a horse to make sure that the house is clean, the food is ready, sitting on the table and all dirty clothes are washed, ironed and folded for the fully grown man. They don’t even have time to relax, take shower, exercise and eat healthy food. They are always tired.
If their husband is around them, most of the time they try to teach him how to eat, talk and live as if he was their 5-year old son.
Usually you hear them complaining,
“My husband is not pursuing me for sex anymore. He has no interest to sit and talk to me. He chooses to chat and flirt with other girls online.”
No man gets attracted to his MOTHER, especially sexually.
You see, when God says, “a suitable helper,” the man has a specific job description to fulfill throughout his life.
His number one job is to glorify God in his deeds and words. Second, as a husband, the word of God calls him to be like Christ:
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephesians 5:25
These two tasks are lifetime things that a man should strive to fulfill. And his “suitable helper” can only be a suitable helper to him if she knows how to be a wife, not a mother to her husband.
She has to first know that she is a woman of God, independent of her husband, strengthening her relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. Then she has to know that she is a wife to her husband, to help him be the person God calls him to be, in short, to die for her as Christ died for the church. In short, she has to learn how to submit to his leadership (when he leads). If he is not, listen what the Bible says to her:
“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. ” 1 Peter 3:1-2
A wife who acts like a mother to her husband cannot be attractive to him because she is his “mommy.”
No wonder some husbands call their wives, “Mommy!”🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️ ///