Before You Touch Her Body

I want to address three important issues today.


During this lockdown time, some men are physically abusing their wives.

So, if you are a wife and you are physically abused by your husband, know that 911 is still working and the officers are still working. So, please call and save yourself and your little ones. And you will also safe your husband from committing major crimes.


If you are a wife of one man and your man keeps on going to another women outside of his marriage, you need to seek help! It is not good to keep this man in your house while he has multiple sexual partners.

Some people may advise you to pray hard.

Well, prayer is always good but in this case, what you need to do, next to prayer, is to seek help from the people who can help you.

Know this: Your husband is not going to other women because you are not good, beautiful and attractive enough for him. He is going to another women because he is sick in this area and he needs help. Keeping him with you won’t heal him from this sickness.

When a husband keeps on going to other women outside of his marriage and his wife keeps on finding out the affairs but ignoring them for various reasons (“my kids love their dad” kind of reasons), more danger is in store for her and her kids.

Jesus said, “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9

The meaning of “sexual immorality” – “porneia” – is a sexual sin that is happening on a continuous basis. It is not a one-time sin or mistake but a continuous one, a lifestyle.


I know I recommended this book at least twice on this page but I want to recommend it again today.

“Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God,” by C.J. Mahaney.

I am recommending this book again because I want to help husbands to know and understand their wife’s sexual nature.

Some men think that men and women have identical sexual nature. Because of that, these husbands always face problems in their marriage and they always wonder why.

So, C. J. Mahaney, says in his book, “Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God,”: “you must touch the heart and mind of your wife before you touch her body.”

Very true!

All men have to know this: When a husband ignores his wife’s emotions, her fears and concerns, he indirectly rejects her sexuality. When he rejects her sexuality, he shouldn’t expect “romance” in the bedroom.

I mean, this is true to all women across the board.

After refusing to help his wife in the house, refusing to give her his attention when she talks, a husband should not expect his wife to be sexual with him in the bedroom. This is one of elementary teachings of martial relationship.

When this kind of husband tries to be romantic in the bedroom, his wife feels like she is used, abused and treated like a sex object or taken as a prostitute.

So, husbands, especially those of you, young husbands, please be mindful of your wife’s unique sexual nature. That is why Peter wrote to you like this:

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” 1 Peter 3:7 ///

P. S. Books I recommended in the video (I bought them from amazon) are:

“Humility True Greatness,” by C. J. Mahaney

“Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God,” by C. J. Mahaney

“The Attributes of God,” by A. W. Pink

“The Sovereignty of God,” by A. W. Pink

“Anxious for Nothing,” by Max Lucado