A4P Guest: Missy, if you were a single woman today, what would be the three main characteristics you would be looking for in a man?
A4P: I love this question! Do you know why?
Well, I think I already told you this but one of the things I was looking for in a man when I was single, young and “st***d” was six-pack abs. It is very embarrassing to admit that now, but it was true.
In hindsight, knowing what I know now about marriage, I have come to realize that six pack abs do nothing for a marriage. I mean, I have met many men with six-pack abs who destroyed their marriages in six different ways.
Yes, six-pack abs may look good but they won’t cook, get groceries, vacuum a house, or change a baby’s diaper.
So, if I were a single woman today, I think I would look for a man who has the following three important characters:
1. Kindness – I want to know if he is kind not only to me, but to any human being. I need his kindness because I am a woman and my life goes through hormonal ups and downs and sometimes when my “unloving” manners and characters show their ugly faces, the last thing I want next to me is a mean-spirited man who judges and criticizes me. Instead, I want a man who lovingly tries to know and understand me.
2. Forgiving – I know myself very well. I know I am a human being who makes mistakes. So, I would look for a man who knows how to forgive and let go. By the way, I’m not talking here about a man who lets everyone walk all over him. Oh, no, I’m not talking about that at all. I’m talking about a man who consciously forgives others and (especially) me, knowing that he is a forgiven man by the Holy God.
3. Honest – Wow! This is very important because, I mean, the man I am looking for is going to be the man of the house and the head of me. So, the last thing I want is the man who builds his life on a lie. If he is honest about himself and life, I will feel safe to give my life and my body to him for the rest of my life. You see, if he is honest, he seeks help whenever he needs it. If he is an honest man, his love for me remains the same when the going gets tough. If he is honest, there is a high probability for him to desire to learn from others and change his life for a better future.
Well, when you add up the above three characters of a man, do you know what you get?
A genuine and sincere Christian man! If you find a man with these characters:
DON’T LET HIM GET AWAY! MARRY HIM! ///