From all the questions I’ve received, I wanted to give answer to the following two questions here on the page so others who may have similar questions may benefit (assuming that my answers are beneficial; I pray that God makes them valuable answers). The questioners have given me permission to address their questions here on the page.
A4P Guest: “I was in love with one of my guy friends in my church. I tried to keep it to myself but when I couldn’t keep it any longer, I told him that I had feeling for him but he said he didn’t have any special feeling for me except seeing me as his sister. I was broken into pieces and also embarrassed but I moved on with my life, keeping him as one of my church friends. That means I see him often. Now after almost a year, he started pursuing me for a relationship saying that he was embarrassed to admit that he loved me last time I approached him. The problem is, I don’t have any feeling for him now. Whenever I remember him, the only thing I have in my heart is pain and hurt. All my friends think that I am crazy to say no to him because he is a dream man for most women in our church. Some people advised me to go with him even if I have this kind of feeling for him right now thinking that I may fall in love with him in the future. What do you think?”
A4P: Hmm! “Fall in love with him in the future?” Sounds very hopeful and optimistic. But I personally won’t tell you to ignore what you feel about him now. And I totally understood you how you felt the first time you went to him. My! It must have felt terrible to be turned down by a man who was supposed to beg you and all that. But hey, it is okay. I am glad you told him what you felt at the time. It is like getting a big burden off of your chest. Now I think he has to look for someone else. And you just pray for that right man, the man who comes to you to tell you that he loves you, to come around. He will. Don’t lose hope.
A4P Guest: “My fiancé and I love each other very much. I used to dream to have a man who loves me the way he does and I do love him dearly. I met him in the most unlikely place. When I went to visit my uncle in the hospital, his mom was sleeping next to my uncle and we met there and the rest is history. It’s been a year now since we have met and we are planning to get married. There is one minor issue in our relationship though. He is a Muslim and I am a Christian. Missy, I dated a couple of Christian men before and none of them loved me the way this man loves me. And the last Christian man I dated treated me like trash. He promised to marry me first and then he cheated on me twice and telling others that I cheated on him and all that. I just don’t want to remember him again. But this man, he is “a God-send” kind of man for me. So, now I was wondering how our different religions can affect our marriage. We both are okay with our religions, I mean, we both are not too serious about our religions and we don’t want to be too fanatic about it. We both believe that the most important thing for a successful marriage is love and we love each other. What do you think?”
A4P: Wow! What do I think about it? Hmm! Very tricky question here!
So, you called that difference “a minor issue?” But the Bible didn’t put it as “a minor issue” but as a deal breaker.
Listen: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God.” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16a)
Did you hear that?
You see, a Christian is a follower of Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ is the Son of God, He is God the Son, one of the Trinity (God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit).
In the Muslim religion, as far as I know, the man they call Jesus is just a good teacher, a prophet sent by Allah, born from a virgin Mary, the one who went to heaven without dying on the cross (somebody else took his place on the cross).
And these two “Jesus”es, the Jesus of Christians and the Jesus of Muslims, are not the same. They are two different men.
For Christians, Jesus Christ means everything, my friend. He is all we have. He died on the cross for our sin. “Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.” Romans 8:34b
For us, Christians, followers of Jesus Christ, according to the Bible, the word of God, Jesus Christ is our Savior and Lord. He will come soon to take us so we can be with Him forever! He is our God, my friend.
And with Christianity, there is no “I don’t want to be fanatic” kind of thing. There is only to be a Christian or not to be a Christian. There is no adjective before “a Christian.” There is no “fanatic Christian” and “non-fanatic Christian.”
It is just like getting pregnant. Is there, “I got a little pregnant” kind of thing? You are pregnant or you are not pregnant. Actually according to the Bible, we who believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, are new creations. It says like this: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” 2 Corinthians 5:17
There is no “a bit new creation” and “totally a creation” kind of Christian.
So, my friend, probably, you are not introduced to Christianity very well. I am not judging you or anything. I am just telling you the truth here. So, I advise you to go to the nearest Bible believing and teaching church and ask the ministers there to teach you and your fiancé about Christ. Believe me in this, you will never regret it. ///