Please read this passage carefully:
“3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. . . 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. . . 15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, – – – 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.” Ephesians 5: 3, 10, 11, 15, 17
It is beyond foolishness for an unmarried couple, who are planning to get married, to pray together, in a room, by themselves.
Not knowing our sexual nature makes us do foolish and stupid things. On the other hand, knowing the word of God, how much it is warning us again and again to stay away from sexual immorality makes us wise, able to identify those fruitless and unwise deeds such as for unmarried couples to pray together, alone, in the room, before they get married. There is no spiritual benefit or fruit that comes from this practice.
When one attracted couple choose to do, they are actually choosing to groom each other for sex. Even they say, they are sharing the word of God and praying in the Holy Spirit, what they actually do is, they are “massaging” each other’s sexual urges. This like playing with “fire!”
There is no biblical reference or passage that shows us that it is beneficial for a couple to be spiritually devoted together, alone, before marriage!
There is a fine line before spirituality and sexuality
A man tends to be very spiritual before marriage because he is in the middle of a big, lifetime project, to impress a girl who is in love with Christ. So, he does everything to impress her. Once he is married to her, he doesn’t need to impress her, she is his; so there is no desire nor interest to pray anymore; prayer will be an extra chore.
When two sexually attracted people sit together, the only thing that is in their minds, if they are sexually healthy, is sex! Especially in the man’s mind!
Forgetting this fact is nothing but foolishness!
People who are fasting and praying a lot before marriage hardly pray in their marriage because it is very difficult for them to feel the same way they were feeling before marriage when they pray together.
So, my advice to those Christian couples who are not yet married is this: Focus on your own personal spiritual growth. Cultivate your community involvements which can strengthen your relationship with one another and others.
“Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” 2 Timothy 2:22
The key phrase from the above verse is: “along with those who” doing so makes you well prepared to face the challenges of marriage head on. ///