“An enabler is a person who deals with the negative effects of an addict’s behavior by shielding them from the consequences of their behavior. Not dealing with or learning from the negative behaviors can cause addicts to continue their behavior unchecked and possibly worsen their conditions over time.” from Psychology Glossary
So, a girl comes up to you and tells you about the person she is planning to marry. You ask her lots of questions to learn about the man. Then from what she tells you, you say: