A4P Guest: Do you think sex is evil?
A4P: Do I think sex is evil? Oh, no, I don’t think sex is evil.
A4P Guest: But you always speak how evil sex is.
A4P: I do?
A4P Guest: Yes. You always say that there is death in it.
A4P: I don’t know if you are mixing up the following two terms: sex and sin.
Sex is a beautiful, wonderful, precious and pleasurable gift of God, my friend. There is no way for me to say that sex is evil. To know what I am talking about, don’t watch porn. Porn doesn’t show you the beautiful gift of God. It only shows you how to degrade, dishonor and disrespect first God, then self and others, the honorable human beings who are bearers of the image of God.
Rather, to know and understand the plan and purpose of God in sex, read Song of Solomon and the rest of the Books of the Bible starting from Genesis where you find the beginning of the mystery of sex, “she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was TAKEN OUT OF MAN.” (Genesis 2:23b, capitalization is mine)
Sin, on the other hand, is evil and it is not a gift of God. Sin is any deed that is done outside the will and plan of God.
For example, God created sex to be enjoyed in the confinement of marriage between one man and one woman for the good of human race and for the ultimate plan and purpose of God. Having sex outside the confinement of marriage is a sin and this sin is evil because it destroys every “good” thing God ordained in the marital sexual consummation and brings destruction into our lives in different forms and shapes. It destroys true love, beautiful marriages and families and it causes loss of joy, peace, love and rest. Above all, it cuts off our intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit. It also gives birth to hard-to-resist lust which is the number one killer of healthy sexual desire and sexual fulfillment. This I call, “double whammy!”
That is why the Bible says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7)
So, my friend, sex is not evil but sin is. And I talk a lot about these two terms but not interchangeably because they are not synonymous but antonyms.
So, next time, when you hear me appeal for sexual purity in speech or writing, listen/read carefully and intently lest you miss the message in its entirety. ///