I Need To Take My Time

A4P Guest: “I am 37 years old and I am single. I met this man in my work place. He is married but his wife is not the kind of woman that he wants to stay married to. He wouldn’t go home if it wasn’t for his two kids. I happened to know about him accidentally and I felt sorry for him. So, one day, while I was eating my lunch (I always pack my lunch to work), he said, “Smells good! It must be one those tasty Ethiopian dishes?” I smiled and invited him to join me.

He did and one thing led to another, I came to know him closely and deeply. And one day, we traveled together for a business trip and we ended up sleeping together. Believe me, I regretted for what I did and I cried before God and I am 100% sure that God has forgiven my sin. Now we are just friends and I actually invited him to my church recently and he comes regularly. I’m now helping him to find peace in his heart. I mean, he is a Christian but I sometimes feel like he needs someone to help him to pull his life together. I’m praying for his marriage every day. I don’t see anything wrong with what I am doing but one of my church leaders last week pulled me aside and asked me to leave him alone and I was a bit confused. What do I, a Christian, should do when I see a brother in Christ is in need? Abandon him?”
– Hmmmmm! How am I going to address this question? Where do I start? From the basic principles of Christianity, from the word of God trying to show her how a Christian single girl should lead her life, or given her age, trying to make sense of her circumstances, or, do I need to start from the church leader who pulled her aside or from her work environment? I really don’t know.
I think I need to take my time and formulate my answer. While I do that, I want to hear from you all. What do you think? How do you think that I need to formulate my answer? If you were in my shoes, how would you formulate your answer? ///
P. S. Questions of this nature usually come to me right after a program on sexual purity. I sometimes don’t find enough time to address each question. So, I always bring them home with me so I can address them on this page.