A4P Guest: Is oral sex allowed?
A4P: What do you mean?
A4P Guest: I thought my question was clear.
A4P: Well, your question is not clear for me. It sounds like there is a list of allowed and not allowed things in the Bible. As far as I understood the Bible, there is no list for us to follow after; we only have two commandments to live by: to love God and to love our neighbors as ourselves (Matthew 22:34-40). So, if you give me some background story as to where this question came from, I may be able to address your question candidly, in light of these two commandments.
A4P Guest: I’m just curious.
A4P: Okay, that is not a good enough background story. So, you said you are curious. I think most of us are curious about this topic. But in what way would my answer to your question make your life better?
A4P Guest: If I know what is allowed and what is not, I would stay away from those things which are not allowed so I can make God happy.
A4P: Oh, correct me if I’m wrong here, so, you are trying to make God happy by doing only those things which are allowed; means, if I say, it is allowed, you will practice oral sex so that God will be happy with you?
A4P Guest: Yes
A4P: My friend, the source of God’s pleasure (happiness) is His Son, Jesus Christ, not what you do or not do. God is pleased with all who run to Jesus Christ for safety, to get saved from all their sins, this evil world and most importantly from eternal death (John 3:16). If you try to make God happy by following the list of do’s and don’ts, your destiny will be hell since no one has ever been able to please God but Jesus Christ. So, please make sure you know this truth – read the Book of Romans along with the Gospel according to John. Coming back to your question, though, let me ask you one quick question: Are you married?
A4P Guest: No, I’m not married; but I’m engaged to get married next year and my fiancée, he thinks that oral sex is allowed since it is like kissing.
A4P: Oh, thank you for staying with me this far and answering all my questions. Now your question becomes very clear for me. And I choose to answer it this way: Please know Christ personally; then learn why you follow Him; and how to follow Him, not by keeping the Laws but by loving Him because Jesus is the fulfillment of the Law, the Lamb of God who fulfilled the law on your and my behalf (Romans 10:4, 13:10, Galatians 5:14). Then learn to see your body as a temple of the Lord as the word of God says and learn how to keep it clean and pure (1 Corinthians 3:16, 6:19; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). Sorry for all my assumptions but I assume that you have no home church and if you do, you are a visitor there, going in and out having nothing to do with the church ministries. And you might not have any close relationship with real and authentic Christians who speak the truth into your heart and hold you accountable and responsible for your life and don’t have any intimate relationship with Jesus and the word of God. If that is the case, work on this fundamental Christian disciplines first, then you will find the answer in your own heart whether oral sex, including kissing before marriage, is something you want to get engaged in or not (notice; I didn’t say, “allowed or not allowed”). ///