Regardless of our belief or religious affiliation, most of us are curious about sex positions. We want to know if there is any other sex position we know nothing about. If we are religious people, we want to know which sex positions are considered “holy” and which ones are considered “unholy” or “sinful”. Sure we want to live for God and we want to do the next right thing.
In the book of Song of Solomon, the book that mostly talks about love and sex (the best book that pictures the love and oneness of Jesus and His bride, the Church), we find more than one place where “sex positions” are implied; Song 2:6; 8:3 and 8:6a. Other than these verses, I don’t know if there is any other Bible verse that deals with “sex positions”.
You may ask: “Why didn’t God list all the biblically accepted sex positions in the Bible?”
Well, I believe, the short and straightforward answer for that question is because there is no such kind of thing.
“Love expressions”, the phrase I prefer instead of “sex positions”, can’t be listed in a “one size fits all” kind of fashion.
Love expressions are unique to each marriage. They flow out of the couple’s closeness, self-less love and healthy communication where they both feel comfortable to be who they truly are.
As couples know each other at the deeper level, as they learn to let go and let God for the well-being of their marriage and each other, exciting and wonderful sexual love expressions sprout in their martial bed like a magic. These love expressions are not the result of reading books or having multiple sexual partners; rather they are the result of the married couple’s dedication, devotion and commitment to strive to love and accept each other as Christ loved and accepted them. That means, no two married couples have the same kind of love expressions because everybody’s level of intimacy, closeness and vulnerability are unique.
Therefore, love expressions can’t be “copied and pasted”.
When married couples concentrate on strengthening their marriages, they pave the way for different and exciting love expressions to populate their marital bed. As they become a safe haven to one another, total freedom will flourish and love expressions flow among them like water that falls down the hill, without effort or energy.
Most often than not, sexual misunderstandings and conflicts occur in a marriage when one of the two (mostly a husband) wants to try a love expression that can’t fit their level of intimacy.
Let me bring today’s post to a close by saying this: As Jesus’ followers, let’s leave the idea of “sex position” to this world, a world that is hopelessly and endlessly look for sexual gratification and fulfillment without God. Let’s focus on strengthening our marriages through sacrificial love. Then we won’t find ourselves in need of any love expression other than the ones which spring up in our marital bed as a result of God’s blessing and our self-less love, dedication and devotion to one another. ///