Monthly Archives: January 2016

Truth

Act vs React

Yesterday in the middle of a conversation about ministry and all, one young, vibrant preacher and pastor I know said, “I once heard a preacher say, ‘Character is not how you act, but how you react.’”
 
It took me a while to grasp the meaning.
 
I personally don’t rush into agreeing or disagreeing with a saying, especially those short ones, before I give it some thinking because I know that most of those short sayings come from those brilliant thinkers with a fine mind. So, I usually turn to my dictionary whether the wordings they use to formulate their thoughts seem familiar to me or not.

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Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Phew! This is beyond me!

A4P Guest: “After I read what you posted yesterday, “I thought I loved her but – – -,” I decided to inbox you my question. Before I do that though, let me give you a background story. I’m one of the ministers in our local church. I work more in counseling than preaching. Right now, it’s been two and half months since I’ve been counseling one young man, 27 years old. He came to me seeking help after one girl accused him of making her pregnant. She is three months pregnant now. Then another woman came, saying she is seven months pregnant from him. Then the third one came after a week or so saying the same man was the one who made her pregnant a year ago but she had a miscarriage. These three women want to marry him saying that they were virgins when he convinced them to sleep with them. The young man didn’t deny any of these stories. I sat down with each one of these girls telling them that the man was not ready to marry them; but they didn’t seem to listen to me. Four of these people are our church members. The girls’ age is between 25 and 27. The young man has now a change of heart, I witnessed the change myself; so did other ministers who work with me. He promised to take the responsibility of raising his kids in everything he can. He even wrote a letter stating his promise and sent a copy of that letter to each one of the pregnant girls and to the church. He promised to go above and beyond the child support money he is required to pay. I told him that these three women want to marry him. He just said, “I will do what you tell me to do.” Well, what should I tell him to do? I know I can’t advise him to marry three of them because of what Genesis 2:21-24 says. I don’t think I can apply the law found in Deuteronomy 22:28-29 & Exodus 22:16-17 either. What should I do then?”

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CG-STAT, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

“I thought I loved her but – – -”

A4P Guest: “I’m a 25-year-old man. I am one of the solo singers in my church. I graduated from university with my first degree in electrical engineering last year and I am currently working on my profession. I wanted to start a brand new life this year. The problem is, a year ago; I made the most serious mistake of my life. I slept with one of the girls who sing in our church choir. She is very pretty and loves God like nobody else. The next day, I went to her and asked her forgiveness and we both cried before God. Then I went to one of the ministers in our church and told him the whole story. He counseled both of us and told us to stay away from ministry for three months which we both did. Throughout those three months, I was fasting and praying and going for counseling with this particular minister who restored my life. The thing is, Missy, I don’t want to have any relationship with the girl I slept with. I know you may judge me here for saying that but please hear me well first. I thought I loved her but after that incidence; I didn’t even want to see her. Whenever I see her, I remember the whole episode which I don’t want to remember in my life. I lusted after her and the consequence of my lust had been the most painful experience of my life. She wanted to continue to have a relationship with me saying that I was her first. She cried on me lots of times. I couldn’t open my mouth to tell her that I have no love for her. Oh, God, please help me. I know I sinned against her, the church and God; but I can’t punish myself by marrying her for what I did. I have interest to neither marry nor have any relationship with her. Please Missy, understand me. Two of her sisters quoted the story of King David’s Son, Amnon, who slept with his sister, Tamar (2 Samuel 13), and later despised her and how God punished him. But our case is not like that. I didn’t rape her. We both agreed to do it and we both made the stupidest mistake of our lives. Even if I struggle to forgive myself, I can’t force myself to marry her against my desire. Everybody thinks that I have another relationship with another girl for rejecting her but I don’t and I don’t think I will have any relationship with any girl soon. I want to first find myself. Please advise me how to communicate this with her without hurting her.”

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Truth

What a privilege

What a privilege it is to be called a child of God! What an honor to always find self in God’s team in every area of life! What a joy to feel God’s undeniable presence everywhere! What a joy to experience daily the unfailing love and mercy of God!
 
How can that be possible for a mere man to experience all that? By being perfect before God?
 
Oh, no, not by perfection but by total dependence in Christ Jesus.
 
Do you know Jesus Christ? Do you have Him in your life as the Lord and Savior of Your life? If not, invite Him today, not tomorrow; now, not later. Then He will always leave you speechless with His jaw-dropping faithfulness and ever new mercy and grace as He always does in my life.
 
Oh, Father, – – – 
“Teach me your way, Lord,    that I may rely on your faithfulness;
give me an undivided heart,
that I may fear your name.
 I will praise you, Lord my God, with all my heart;
I will glorify your name forever.
For great is your love toward me;
you have delivered me from the depths,
from the realm of the dead.” (Psalm 86:11-13)

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