Monthly Archives: December 2015

CG-STAT, Love, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Want to do Dating Right

Many young people are dropping me their questions saying, “We got it! We now understand that all those mini-sex acts (kissing, touching, cuddling, petting and all) are not good for us before marriage. They push us to do what we vowed not to do; which is sex before marriage. The problem is, we’ve been practicing mini-sex acts since day one that it seemed impossible for us to stop now. We keep falling short of our promises we made to one another. What should we do?” Continue reading Want to do Dating Right →

Sexual Purity, Truth

WHAT ARE YOU SOWING?

Sometimes in the middle of counseling, I ask this question, “So, who do you want to be in the next 10 years or so?”

The response I always get is something like, “I want to be a person who loves and serves God and others with everything I am and with everything I have.”

So, my follow-up question is, “So, what are you doing today to get there then?”

Why am I asking that? Well, for all the counseling sessions to be effective and fruitful, the person I am counseling primarily needs to know that there is what is called “the law of sowing and reaping.” Knowing this fact will help the person change his/her course or direction of life for good!

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Sexual Purity, Truth

Is Modesty Optional for women?

In my yesterday’s post, “I made a covenant with my eyes,” I see that one particular paragraph seemed to throw some people off.

If I’m not mistaken, “If a woman chooses to go half or fully naked” seems to be the one which created some confusion, or I will say, misunderstanding, to what I was trying to communicate. So, I want to clarify that today.

Well, my intention when I wrote yesterday’s post was to shine the light on the main source of sexual immorality which is a lustful heart. While I did that, I concurrently wanted to address one common excuse I usually hear from some men: “I would control my eyes if the women wear appropriately.” Continue reading Is Modesty Optional for women? →

Family, Love, Marriage, Truth

Most husbands struggle to say – – –

Most husbands struggle to say – – –

– – – “I’m sorry.”

Why? Well, one reason is that they don’t see their fault as clearly as their wives see it. So, acknowledging their faults by saying “I’m sorry” when in fact they believe they didn’t do anything wrong would be the most unreasonable and absurd thing for them to do. So, they refuse to say it.

The other simple reason is, they just don’t want to say “I’m sorry” because they are not accustomed to saying that simple statement before they got married. Continue reading Most husbands struggle to say – – – →

Truth

Going to Church – – –

The Word of God commands us to do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ:

“And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” (Colossians 3:17)

What does “in the name of the Lord Jesus” mean? The meaning is found in 1 Corinthians 10:31:

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”

So, going to church has to be done for the glory of God, to bring glory and fame to God. The moment we lose this focus, we tend to attach going to church with our feelings and emotions. The problem with that is, our unstable feelings and emotions won’t always encourage us to go to church but to stay home and watch sermon on TV. ///

CG-STAT, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

Going against the norm

I heard about the wedding of a virgin couple the same week they got married here in the city I live in. Today one of my Facebook friends sent me the interview they gave to “Good Day” Fox 5 and I want to share it with you all.
 
http://www.fox5dc.com/news/local-news/36858555-story
 
What shook the social media was not their virginity but “the certificate of virginity” the bride presented to her father, Pastor Mike Freeman, on her wedding day.

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CG-STAT, Love, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Truth

Cast Your Bread on What?

 

This is just to reiterate on my latest post, “My Wedding Date is set.”

But, first, let me say this: You have no idea how delighted I was when I opened up the page and read all the comments on my last post.

Your respectful tone and candid way of expressing your agreements/disagreements with the post are unparalleled and I applaud you all. Your spiritual and mental maturity was on a display for all to see. I learn a great deal from each comment; thank you!

I believe with all my heart that this is the only way we, the body of Christ, can learn from one another and grow into the fullness of Him who called us into His Kingdom. Continue reading Cast Your Bread on What? →

CG-STAT, Love, Marriage, Sexual Purity, Singles, Truth

My Wedding Date is Set

A4P Guest: I’m 30 years old. I’m originally from Ethiopia. I moved to the U.S. 15 years ago. I became a born again Christ when I was 13. I’m now dating an African American man, 38 years old. He is a born again Christian too. I am going to his church since I met him. We’ve been together since May of 2013. Since day one, we have been doing everything we are not supposed to do as an unmarried couple and all my best friends who are from Ethiopia seem to know but none of them have said anything about it. We are now about to get married and his pastor didn’t ask us about our sexual integrity or anything related to that when we went to him to set our wedding day. But me, I go to bed crying knowing that I’m sinning against my God and that for sure my sin will soon find me out. My wedding date is set for March. What do you advise me to do?
 
A4P: If I were you, knowing what I know today about sexual sin and the consequences of it all, I would call everything off, including the wedding date until I get my life straight before God.

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