A4P Guest: My friend’s husband called me recently and asked me to sleep with him. I was very shocked. I’m married and they’ve been married now for three years. My husband and I and my friend and her husband, we all are Christians and we go to the same church. Now, I don’t know what I need to do. Of course I hung up the phone on him but do you think I need to tell my friend that her husband asked me to sleep with him? If I don’t tell her, I feel like I am hiding a secret from her and I read what you posted yesterday and I felt like God wants me to bring this secret out from the dark. What do you advise me?
Crying is the language of babies. When something happens to babies, they cry. That is the only way they communicate their “uncomfortable feelings” with others. If they want somebody to change their diaper, they cry. If they are hungry, they cry. If they want to sleep, they cry. You get the drift.
A wedding is not a marriage! A wedding is a ceremony and a marriage is a ministry. These two are very different. A wedding is a one day deal and after that, it is gone, done, finished, “finito”!
Whereas a marriage, it is a lifetime commitment. Wedding and marriage have to be handled differently. Here in America, “50 billion dollar a year is spent only for wedding ceremonies. One million copies of bridal magazines are sold each month” (from “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” – by Parrott and Parrott).
That’s an absolutely staggering number since we know that one out of two marriages ends in divorce. All that investment on the wedding is not going to add a thing to the marriage.
Wise are couples who invest on their marriages (before they get married) as they attend premarital counseling sessions; buy and read together books about marriage and go counseling together (not to get validation for their relationship but to listen and apply what they learn). /// (this was originally posted on 12/02/2013)
P. S. For those of you who may be new to the page, this is what is going on with Appeal for Purity (A4P) this month. As part of the A4P one year anniversary celebration (which is coming up on Oct. 31), I’m going to re-post my earlier posts throughout the month of Oct (only weekdays though). The first person who is going to drop their nice comment on the first re-post on October 1 and the last person who is going to drop their nice comment on the last re-post on Oct 31, will receive prize from A4P as part of the celebration (the winner for Oct. 1 has already been selected and the gift has already been shipped to the winner). But in the meantime, if the Holy Spirit gives me a message to share with you all, I will go ahead and post it daily.